This cliche of better living is a caveat not just for members of the 12-step community but for anyone wishing to enjoy a more balanced life. Ironically, it is in the throes of my husband’s difficult diagnosis that I found a way towards “living in the moment.”
At first, I was thrown by every change and new development. “Oh no, is this what our life will now be!” I came to realize soon enough that change is the Lewy signature.
Today, my love might be restless and disagreeable. By noon, all that might change. Sometimes, the change will be an improvement, and sometimes not. Things won’t stay the same for long.
Dealing with and anticipating that things will be different is my way of living in our moment. I take Burt’s moods, needs, and expectations minute by minute. One day at a time gets broken up into the little fractions of 24 hours.
Often, this is surprisingly pleasant, if a tad stressful.
Planning, while necessary, doesn’t allow me to fully understand what’s next. I am immersed in our present.
Every day is a new day.
this is our life 