“Let them do the things they can”

Excellent piece of advice, that.

It may have come from Teepa Snow, our dementia-whisperer.

For me and perhaps you, if you are a caregiver to a pwd, it’s hard not to do for, decide for, control the experience.

To my curiosity (and a touch of my being annoyed), Burt got ticked off while waiting for a late evening PT session. When his physical therapist arrived, he sat him down and said he didn’t like these late hours. He tried to get me to reschedule, but I said the schedule bothered him, not me.

To my astonishment, Burt worked out earlier hours across his schedule. It took a lot of repeating and writing the new times in his notebook, but he got what he set out to do done.