Much is lost as LBD progresses. That doesn’t mean we’ve lost everything to this disease. We still exchange affection in words and deeds. We kiss. We hold hands. We express how very very much we love each other. Often. He still says thank you when he wants to show appreciation. More importantly, Burt still knowsContinue reading “The things we still share”
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It’s hard to imagine
My smart and capable husband is living in a world outside of my reality. Actually, outside of any reality. He has many wives, one of which he says is not nice to him. Guilty as charged. I direct him too much. Praise him too little. Worry that something will go awry. All of this singlyContinue reading “It’s hard to imagine”
When in doubt or crisis
throw some love at it Seriously, and any dementia is a serious illness, there are positives to caregiving. [See also here] In the midst of declines and the unpredictability of what I am experiencing, staying clear of depression is a necessity. Holding onto the one reason I am here is too. So reassuring him andContinue reading “When in doubt or crisis”
Bluey
I started watching cartoons with Burt because they were colorful with plots that were easy to follow. The default mode for him is to misinterpret much of the action anyway. His “favorites” like Law and Order were too complex. And for my two-cents too violent. I worry about how he’s processing events on Columbo. WeContinue reading “Bluey”
Communication
Some of our conversations feel like this “Challenge Game.”
Understanding
It’s nice when Burt gets the gist of my writing about him. When it contains the promise of my love as in the poem I created for him the other night, he’s a happy audience. So much of what I say is distorted on its way to meet him that it can be a frustrationContinue reading “Understanding”
this is our life 