It’s been an unexpected journey in every way.

Along the way, I have met women and men who care for their partners with dementia. Some of these caregivers are providing comfort and support to former spouses or even ex-boyfriends.

This speaks to the connection they have with their exes. It also speaks of the deep connection that love builds.

Most of us would not choose caregiving a loved one. It’s a role that is thrust upon us, often suddenly. My path to carer keeps evolving. I have become a bit better at it.

When your spouse has this disease, it is all too easy to let frustration lead. Patterns of your life, which include impatience and exasperation, come to the forefront.

It takes time, but love will remind you.

That doesn’t mean I don’t lose my temper.

I have heard others say it, and it’s true for me as well: since Burt’s diagnosis, I have found a deeper love than I thought possible.