This was the source of Burt’s favorite treat: Madeleines For a while, Burt only ate either lemon meringue tarts or Madeleine cookies. I took his love of the latter with a grain of irony that they were the snack of choice in Proust’s À la recherche du temps perdu.★ My secret irony was the searchContinue reading “Madeleines”
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DTA. E.T.A.
Soon, we switch the clocks. Not soon as imminently but more in the context that Christmas decorations will go up before the Thanksgiving leftovers fill our freezers. Musing over the time change is a teary event for me. Time is a touchy topic when your loved one has lost all sense of it. Also, changingContinue reading “DTA. E.T.A.”
Ms. Fix It
I am a fixer. I feel it as a plus and a negative. My husband’s dementia is leaving him more broken each day. I can’t fix that. How can I help? How can I avoid doing harm. I am out of the house, joining an aerobics class or having coffee with a friend. He callsContinue reading “Ms. Fix It”
Self-care
For everyone, it’s likely to look different, but this was my day. Things at home were looking to be under control even though my honey was “training” a substitute carer.
Day into night
Agitation and upset come into every life, but they are harder for your person with dementia. Losing time is a frequent confusion. When Burt first presented with symptoms, the topsy-turvyness of his days was distressing to me. It confused him that it was 7 at night and not the morning, but he seemed OK withContinue reading “Day into night”
Partners
The loss of a partner is a difficult loss. When your love has dementia the loss is kind of on-going. He can’t provide the support he once did. He can’t be the partner he wants to be. Burt is constantly saying “if you have a problem, come to me.” He is sincere, but he can’tContinue reading “Partners”
