Can you share a positive example of where you’ve felt loved? Burt has always made me feel truly loved. Even these days, when he seems not so sure who I am, I still know he loves me truly. I am entirely delighted by the reassurance of this truth.
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There’s a method
What snack would you eat right now? My morning was spent toiling over a blender. Lest you pity me my arduous labors, it’s nothing. Really. Cooking was abandoned long before Burt’s diagnosis. He had grown indifferent to what I served. I choose to blame a phase pre-LBD, but perhaps my skills had grown indifferent. SinceContinue reading “There’s a method”
Memories
What makes you feel nostalgic? A YouTube video of snow cascading outside a coffee shop with jazz pleasantly playing prompted «It’s a slow game, but it’s good« from Burt. Lately, Burt will comment on a “movie” he feels he’s watching even with the TV off, so mention of the «game« didn’t throw me. For me,Continue reading “Memories”
Safe and secure
When are you most happy? When Burt shows delight, as he chortles, happily laughing at his own jokes, I am happy. My job 1 is keeping him at home, safe, secure, and comfortable. If he’s enjoying himself, it makes that job so much easier. Admittedly, my frustration trying to get his head back on the pillowContinue reading “Safe and secure”
Got to get a hobby
What is your favorite hobby or pastime? In the last post here, I had a chance to investigate “leisure activities” for Burt. Mine are less nuanced. I used to love trying artsy craftsy things to do. I once made a beautifully resonating drum. I also potted a decidedly clunky piece of clay; I was aimingContinue reading “Got to get a hobby”
Funny you should ask
How do you practice self-care? The “self-care” question meets with controversy and raised eyebrows in my community of caregivers. “Take care of yourself” is a well-meant message we often hear. Many of those of us who are taking care of a spouse understand the need, appreciate the sentiment, and just wish you didn’t have toContinue reading “Funny you should ask”
Growth
What experiences in life helped you grow the most? Let’s look at the question in the all- consuming context of caregiving. Other experiences have contributed to my professional growth. They found a place on my resume. Falling in love helped me grow in my heart and soul. Then along came my love’s dementia and IContinue reading “Growth”
Is it challenging?
What is the biggest challenge you will face in the next six months? Staying positive and appreciating the opportunities that caregiving offers is the biggest challenge. It’s too easy to find the hards in the journey. Focusing on those makes it just a little harder. Looking at the love that binds us together as weContinue reading “Is it challenging?”
What would Burt say?
What advice would you give to your teenage self? Don’t get old is advice he’s meted out. Another favorite is don’t get dementia. Burt would definitely suggest those bits to his teenage self and yours. Life remains an enigma. We don’t know where we’re going or by what means we’ll get there. “Don’t get old”Continue reading “What would Burt say?”
All the to-dos
Write about your approach to budgeting. There are so many things that can overwhelm the caregiver in this journey. It’s not just the responsibility – both financial and physical – and our loved one’s urgent and ongoing needs, but the long lists of what-to-dos. There are supplies we have to keep on hand. Burt justContinue reading “All the to-dos”
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