Which relationship has taught you the most about yourself? One should learn as a child, but the parent-child relationship is far and away not conducive to this kind of self-reflection. We are not ready. We are not yet equipped to absorb who we are. Mind you, my parents were around into my adulthood. I lostContinue reading “Self-knowledge”
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Ask yourself:
How do you make time for self-care? My mantra all through the LBD journey with Burt was that I made sure to have time for myself. I had help so I could leave Burt in good hands while I went to the gym or out to lunch with a friend. I needed the time toContinue reading “Ask yourself:”
In the papers
How did you meet your significant other? Not in the funny papers as my comic id wants to say, but in NY Press, a printed news sheet. It was free, found in little boxes around town. The meet your mate or date section was also free. In short, I answered Burt’s personal ad. He calledContinue reading “In the papers”
Best, better, best
If you could relive one day from your past, which day would it be and why? The day Burt and I went on our 2nd date. A day that led us to the many years we had together.
Good fortune
What’s a chapter of your life you’d title “The Hard Years” — and what got you through it? The obvious answer would be the journey I took with Burt once he was diagnosed with Lewy Body. The journey, as it turns out, had so many positives. It brought out a side of me I hadn’tContinue reading “Good fortune”
Dx
What’s the most profound piece of advice you’ve been given? Did you take it? When Burt was first diagnosed, I was sure that his symptoms were acts of willfulness. It should not have taken a social worker to tell me that he wasn’t being difficult. Dementia isn’t performative. It’s profoundly distressing, and not just forContinue reading “Dx”
We were there
What is the best concert you have been to? The concerts we saw together, they were all magnificent because we were there. There is no best when it’s all great.
Forever
What’s a moment you wish you could freeze and live in forever? Sunday, May 3rd marked the 36th year since we met. The moments we spent together on that day are frozen in my memory. On that evening, we had wandered the city from West 21st Street to a restaurant at 50th and 1st Avenue.Continue reading “Forever”
It is what it is
Write about a time when you didn’t take action but wish you had. What would you do differently? Do you dislike that tagline, the one in my header, as much as I do? My dislike for it is tinged with the understanding that it’s kind of, sort of accurate. Regrets are useless. And they inflictContinue reading “It is what it is”
Weekly call
Describe a positive thing a family member has done for you. Burt’s daughter would call him every week. In the last year or so, when LBD distracted him from the conversation, he still smiled at the attention. She and I would then catch up. Since he’s passed, she calls me every weekend and we catchContinue reading “Weekly call”
