Which relationship has taught you the most about yourself? One should learn as a child, but the parent-child relationship is far and away not conducive to this kind of self-reflection. We are not ready. We are not yet equipped to absorb who we are. Mind you, my parents were around into my adulthood. I lostContinue reading “Self-knowledge”
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Over troubling waters
via Photo Challenge: Bridge My local bridge always smelled of white bread baking when I was growing up and we came over it from Queens. In those days, it was just the 59th Street Bridge, now it’s named in honor of one of the city’s recent mayors, Ed Koch. The bakery on the Queens sideContinue reading “Over troubling waters”
Baseball, Sep 5
Burt introduced me to baseball. I did know it existed of course, but did not appreciate the beauty of a double play until he explained it at the ballpark. There are many myths about the origins of the American pastime. One is that Pittsfield Invented Baseball. It’s a long story and I will present you withContinue reading “Baseball, Sep 5”
Forever
What’s a moment you wish you could freeze and live in forever? Sunday, May 3rd marked the 36th year since we met. The moments we spent together on that day are frozen in my memory. On that evening, we had wandered the city from West 21st Street to a restaurant at 50th and 1st Avenue.Continue reading “Forever”
Loneliness
Loneliness is not just about being alone. I am lonely, not because I lack for company and friends, but because I miss Burt’s company. I love my friends. I am grateful to have them with me. I am fortunate to have them in my life. I enjoy our conversations, our outings, the time we share.Continue reading “Loneliness”
Weekly call
Describe a positive thing a family member has done for you. Burt’s daughter would call him every week. In the last year or so, when LBD distracted him from the conversation, he still smiled at the attention. She and I would then catch up. Since he’s passed, she calls me every weekend and we catchContinue reading “Weekly call”
Video memory
Waiting for my old cellphone to migrate to the new one gave me an opportunity to catch up with the video of Burt in the rehab. He came home from the facility on February 25th, 2 years to the day before he died at home. The video is just under 7 minutes and in itContinue reading “Video memory”
More in the memory dept.
As I leave lunch at Old John’s, I pass Merkin Hall and think Burt and I went there a few times. Of course we did. We went to just about every concert hall in town.
An essay for carers
Why I will always treasure the healthcare pros who came into our lives when Burt got ill. There is a diminishment that comes with dementia. The dementia sufferer and the family who loves him see their quality of life plummet. It happens over time, but it also is evident early on, sometimes on day one.Continue reading “An essay for carers”
The parade
Are you the parade?, she askedNot in the parade or at the paradeIt was a tremendous responsibility Being the parade, she thought. Yes,She said. I am. The parade, she Added. Where are you?, she asked. WhereIs the parade, you mean?, she saidYes. I’m in Bayside, she answered.The parade, it’s in Bayside, near theWater. I mean,Continue reading “The parade”
