There is still a deep romantic connection between my love and I. This despite the chaste status of our relations these days. I feel the pull at my heart, and I have often heard his version of our story as well. He has wanted to “run away,” he says, but “there’s some chemistry between us.”Continue reading “Romance”
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Getting out together
I hate to admit it. When apparently healthy couples of a certain age stroll by hand in hand, I am envious. The recent outings facilitated by our new weekend aide take some of the sting of my jealousy away. I can get out with my guy. That’s a nice feeling. We both enjoy being out,Continue reading “Getting out together”
There’s a lot to be said
From pretty much day one of Burt’s symptoms, I looked to getting help. Initially, it was because I needed my time. I wanted to get 3 or 4 hours several times a week to get out. It seemed an existential need for me. In the parlance of our dementia communities, it’s deemed “self-care.” Some ofContinue reading “There’s a lot to be said”
Good news
That’s just silly
Getting sillier is becoming a salvation. There’s some serious stuff going on. Of course there is. I need to rise to the occasion to combat the many ills that come with Lewy. I also need to find ways to smile and stay sane. If texting “Tony the tiger great” is an indication of the latter.Continue reading “That’s just silly”
My gratitude journey: a tale of before
In reviewing the very unsatisfactory week we’ve had recently, my mind flashed back unbidden to days my love and I spent in the park. The memory was of a time long enough ago that there was no suspicion of dementia and illness. Burt wanted to take me to a spot where he had been inContinue reading “My gratitude journey: a tale of before”
Burdens. Joys.
Gratitude is a “thing” for the 2020s Era, but it is also a very powerful tool. This way of seeing and being opens us up to joy and enjoyment. I feel free to be grateful even for my sadness and my sorrow. With that, I feel even greater gratitude for pleasures, joys, and enjoyments. BurtContinue reading “Burdens. Joys.”
Support
There is a unique and uniquely helpful support group offered by New York alz.org. I have been participating in this wonderful writers group this past couple of months. Each session, we are guided by helpful prompts to explore our experiences in the caregiving journey. We then take some 15 to 20 minutes to write itContinue reading “Support”
Aspirational
Let me confess that I am aspiring to a better path on this journey. I am far from treading that road. I boss him. He hates that. When he “throws me out,” instead of saying “never,” I say “OK see you around.” I need to say “I will never ever leave you.” Not only isContinue reading “Aspirational”
Our outing
I feel like I am dining out on the fumes of this event. Burt had such a good time, but the memory is not enough. With the picture arriving in my in-box yesterday, I could see that Burt was able to appreciate it. I need to plan another outing for us. For both our sakes.Continue reading “Our outing”
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