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Midtown west

Our old stomping ground After the hard years, I get to remember and celebrate all the good years New York City Center has been restored beautifully. It’s a bright elegant spot even with all the superb theatrical venues the City sports. I have been a habituée for longer than you need to know. [Hey, itContinue reading “Midtown west”

To soothe

Burt loved tap and step dance, healthy Burt did. Burt during dementia gave Irish step a pass, at least he did on St. Paddy’s in 2023. I was reminded of this last night while watching a snippet of very enjoyable step dance at New York Irish Center. In deference to the many times we enjoyedContinue reading “To soothe”

Isn’t It Romantic

I am a romantic. It was not always thus. I had once been a self-prescribed pragmatist. I wouldn’t be surprised if life with Burt is what turned me into a sentimental sort. I’m sure it has. When we met, I was determined to find a life partner. I was lonely living alone and it was time. IContinue reading “Isn’t It Romantic”

I have some theories

Burt had panic attacks all of his life. By the time we got together the anxiety was mostly and as time went on increasingly under control. Anxiety is one of the symptoms that plague those with Lewy Body Dementia. Burt’s anxiety during his years with this illness was mild although we had some concerns aboutContinue reading “I have some theories”

On this dreary morning

I awake to notice the slide show on one of my screens. I greet the first image with “Good morning, Burton.” The next with “I miss having you around, darling.” As the pictures go by, I tell Burt how I feel in his absence; that I miss holding his hand and kissing him. It’s aContinue reading “On this dreary morning”

Rules are rules

There was a fierce snow storm many winters past, and Burt and I, restless with cabin fever, went to 65th Street for dinner. Mind you, Burt had a no-go-snow policy but I guess the exception proves the rule. This outing was memorable for the high greying icy mounds at each corner. On this corner, weContinue reading “Rules are rules”

The journey

You and your spouse are on this journey together, and apart. You stand by his side, but his path is not the same as yours. Lewy Body Dementia is a disease built for two, as I had often observed over the years. When your spouse is stricken, you and s/he are both in it forContinue reading “The journey”

Pictures

The Burt Blog

When I started this blog, I was “working” other sites, sharing my thoughts on a variety of topics. I was reluctant to breach our privacy in such a blatantly public way. Burt would be more exposed than I and I had some concern for his dignity. My decision was cemented by two facts. Lewy BodyContinue reading “The Burt Blog”

Things change

New York is a dynamic town. I discovered today that it’s Deutsche Bank [not Constantinople, er not Time Warner] Center. Shocking, these changes. Burt and I spent a lot of time at the Time Warner Center enjoying dinner or a jazz performance or both. For our anniversary or Valentine’s or a birthday one year weContinue reading “Things change”