via Daily Prompt: Pamper It does not come naturally to me, taking care of myself as if I were a porcelain doll. Or perhaps some fragile nymph in need of solicitude. Perhaps I am being overly censorious. I do not mean to demean those who take an interest in such things, and themselves. I am admiringContinue reading “Full spa treatment (repeat)”
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Conjuring Dickens [repost]
Not only is Burt emotional (as documented here before), but he is capable of having a multitude of conflicting feelings at once. It was the best. It was the worst. All on one occasion. He has no filter, so he isn’t shy about letting me have it. Nor in the least non-plussed at sharing aContinue reading “Conjuring Dickens [repost]”
Ask yourself:
How do you make time for self-care? My mantra all through the LBD journey with Burt was that I made sure to have time for myself. I had help so I could leave Burt in good hands while I went to the gym or out to lunch with a friend. I needed the time toContinue reading “Ask yourself:”
Help is on the way (rerun)
As a caregiver, it’s easy (and way too common) to feel alone on the journey. In many ways, we are. The idea that no one is coming to our rescue when we are in the throes of a Lewy episode; the feeling that the worst moments are the ones only we can handle is provocative.Continue reading “Help is on the way (rerun)”
Madeleines
This was the source of Burt’s favorite treat: Madeleines For a while, Burt only ate either lemon meringue tarts or Madeleine cookies. I took his love of the latter with a grain of irony that they were the snack of choice in Proust’s À la recherche du temps perdu.★ My secret irony was the searchContinue reading “Madeleines”
Costs of care
The cost of taking care of a loved one with dementia is high. The American healthcare system is unlikely to be much help. Long term care insurance might provide the bandaid to expenses. I don’t know the cost to benefits analysis of buying this insurance; I didn’t have it. When your person gets ill, youContinue reading “Costs of care”
When? [repost]
My time is reality-bound His is more a flight of fancy Yesterday, 2 weeks ago, meld There is no this morning, Just a sense that it happened Long enough ago to worry That something was missed My time is grounded, tethered To the rhythms of the clock His lives in his imagination It slips fromContinue reading “When? [repost]”
“Gawking…”
It’s in the touristy tradition to find everything we see on our tours «the most beautiful.» That is how I feel about my city. Around and about Which topics would you like to be more informed about? “Gawking at buildings,” that’s how I described my hobby to my future husband even before we met. It’sContinue reading ““Gawking…””
Reviewing photo albums
Too random…
Sweetness is an acquired taste. I know for a fact that til I met my husband, I had an inclination toward the savory which has since turned into a full-on sweet tooth. I also recall being appalled at the saccharine– in films, in books, in life. I have since come to have a sentimental streakContinue reading “Too random…”
